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I remember my first coming out experience and I remember I felt like I could not breathe, that I just cannot said the word “gay”. Now about 2.5 years since then, I can say there are still moments that my heart pounds fast and I feel a nerve traveling through my body. This happens quite rare, but sometimes it does.
So does it get easier? Yes. It is just hard at first, due to fear of rejection and negative reactions, but as you continue to come out, it gets easier. You notice that you are just telling a part of yourself, that has nothing wrong about it, nothing to be ashamed of. That despite the odds of negative reactions, neither it means there is something wrong with you nor you should stop telling people or be ashamed of yourself.
What to do is simple: embrace yourself, keep calm and just come out. Do not make it a huge deal in a way to get extremely nervous all the time. Sometimes it is as easy as “Yea I am gay”, sometimes sort of in a joking way. There is no should on how or when to come out, but one thing important to keep calm and come out when you feel to do so. Do not force yourself, and you will see it will get better and easier.
Hope this helps, and feel free to ask more if you need to.